The only thing I take seriously is my Freedom. And Bacon.

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Peggy Noonan - The Time Of Our Lives

I originally read this a few months back via NetGalley.
Though I lean Right, I'm more of a Gregg Gutfeld (really miss him on Red Eye) person. I'd never read Peggy Noonan (sorry Ms. Noonan!)
However, I truly loved The Time Of Our Lives.
Her book is really not so much about politics as it is about character (something we lack today).
She tells a wonderful story about Joan Rivers (I did not realize Joan was Conservative!).
There, of course, are insights about Ronald Reagan.
The Time Of Our Lives makes you feel like you're sitting at the table at Sunday Dinner - warm, loved; that even if all is not right with the world, we can learn from what has worked, and try to imitate it.
On a personal note, Ms. Noonan is really a woman to look up to; she worked her butt off and came from a working class family, yet she doesn't wear her feminism around a bullhorn around her neck.
The odd thing is...though I am a fan of Greg on tv, I actually liked Peggy's book much better than I liked Greg's new book!
Just being honest here (sorry Greg)
The Time of Our Lives is a great wonderful read to curl up with at the end of a frustrating day; kinda like a glass of wine; it's soothing and inspiring.
Loved it.

Friday, August 7, 2015

People Will Talk - Liberal War On Faith

Watched this old movie called "People Will Talk" starring Cary Grant. There is a great clip of Grant's character defending small town people who believe in "miracles." The clip follows my observation on why it's important not to marginalize people who live in small towns/communities and people of faith.

Monday, July 27, 2015

Honor Flight Philly - Help Send a Vet To Honor Flight!

I created a fund campaign  to send 2 WWII Vets to Honor Flight, please consider donating.

Honor Flight - Show Your Appreciation To Our Greatest Generation!

Anyone who knows me knows that attending the homecoming of Honor Flight (Philly) made a huge emotional/powerful impact on my life.

I had watched the  Honor Flight documentary a year prior (maybe 2 years?) and was very moved by the sacrifice of the Greatest Generation. I've watched increasingly as our Military (and those who protect us) has been attacked by media and, more disturbingly, by the present administration in the White House.

What you may not know - is that I've also been concerned that most tech companies are run by liberal leaning owners (yet they sure do love capitalism when it comes to their bank accounts!)

I was really excited when I learned that one (very funny!) local person (who was inspired by a book he read about the story of Twitter) launched a crowd-funding source based on values inspired by moderates/independents/right.  RWNJ FUNDING is a crowd-sourcing platform that rivals GoFundMe and Indiegogo.

People often complain that there is no alternative to lefty social media - well, now there is. And I hope this inspires more people to start facebook/twitter platforms.

I am proud to say I'm the first to give this a try!

And for me, raising money to send WWII Vets on an Honor Flight was the perfect charity to raise money for.

If you have something or someone you'd like to raise money for, please don't hesitate to join me.

Here's my link to donate:

Saturday, July 25, 2015

Amazon Publishes Fake Ann Coulter Book

If you recall my frustration (and disbelief) when I discovered that Amazon had deleted my five star (verified purchases!) for Conservative books and one star reviews for Liberal leaning books. Then they took away my "review' privileges because they said I violated something  when I asked WHY -  I wanted proof - they re-instated me within hours (they never act that quickly).

Today I noticed a fake book being sold as Ann Coulter's "Adios America" - Amazon has very very strict guidelines and any self-published author on Amazon will tell you- it couldn't have happened without some help from the inside.

Here's the story when I first discovered Amazon had deleted my political reviews: Amazon Targeting Conservatives? 

Publishing is a very very liberal world. I don't think as a whole they are targeting people on the right, but I do believe there are a few people working on the inside who are disrupting and pushing their liberal agenda.

Anyway - I hope that's all it is.

Monday, July 13, 2015

When My High-school Best Friend Slept With A Teacher - A Lesson in Mob Mentality

My best friend and I were walking home from high school – it was either Freshman or Sophomore year, I can’t remember as I’m bad with dates, times.
But where I am bad with actual dates, I can clearly remember emotions. I remember the exact place where I was when she told me she was having an affair with the cutest teacher in school. In our very small Catholic school.
We were walking along the baseball field. It was spring. An unseasonably warm day. I had thought I knew my best friend – really knew her.
And yet, when she said, “I have something to tell you. You can’t tell anyone.” I had no clue, NONE, as to what she was going to confide in me.
“Mr. W and I are having an affair.”
I was horrified.
I remember staring at the ground. Then looking at the blooming flowers. I remember the smell of lilacs.
I remember a feeling of nausea and wanting desperately to rewind time.
And you have to know that I was probably one of the craziest, zaniest, “do what feels good” type of teenagers. I usually went against the grain. I got an F in religion for “asking too many questions.” I admired Madonna (Like a Virgin) not Madonna (like a pregnant Virgin).
And so that is probably why she thought her secret was safe with me. And it was – until her mother found the LETTERS he wrote to her.
I think I was probably one of the first to be sexually active – and not because I was really interested in it, but because I wanted to be the first of my friends. I wanted to be as cool as the Madonna (the singer).  I wanted to experience what the articles in the magazine Cosmopolitan assured me was my RIGHT, my privilege, my ‘power.’
Sex with teachers (in a very small town) was not something that really even entered my mind. This was pre- internet. Pre “Teacher Sleeps With Students" as everyday headlines.
And yet, I was deeply horrified.
Mr. W was a married man with kids.
Mr. W was a friend to my best-friends parents. He and his wife attended BBQ’s and parties with  my BFF’s family.
I just knew, with unflinching sureness, it was horribly wrong. It had nothing to do with religion. It had everything to do with betrayal. A wife. Children. Friends.
And then, there were students. Mr. W’s betrayal of  students, of the parents of students who trusted him.
She assured me they hadn’t “gone all the way” – that it was stolen moments of oral sex in our classrooms.
My BFF felt special – out of all the very pretty girls in our school – she was the one he chose.
I didn’t feel so sure about this – I felt that she was the one he chose to dupe. I didn’t envy her at all. She really believed he loved her.
But how could one believe a man would love you if he was cheating on his wife, on his children, on the school (a Catholic school!).
She came from a great family. A big family. A loving family. A mother that joked about sex and was more of a friend than a parent. I loved her family.
I could barely look at Mr. W the next day at school, or the days that followed. I had no one to turn to – no one to confide in. I remember warning my BFF that is just didn’t seem right. But a grown-up, a handsome, very popular grown up ‘loved’ her – she couldn’t see, she wouldn’t see, why this might be harmful to her confidence, to her spirit.
And then, when she was out of town visiting relatives, her mother and father arrived at my house.
Her mother asked me to please come out to the car.
It was a station wagon. I slid into the backseat, sitting on the edge. In the rear view mirror I could see the face of my BFF’s father. He had tears in his eyes. I’d never seen a grown man cry.
I thought my BFF had died. Why else would her mother and father be at my house?
They quickly assured me she was okay.
Then her mother started crying. She asked me to please be honest with her. She said she knew I was a good friend and very loyal, but for the safety of my BFF- she begged me to be honest.
“Is she having an affair with a teacher?”
I remember not answering. What do I do? What do I say?
I was angry I’d been placed in this situation. Watching parents CRYING because a teacher had betrayed them. Stolen the innocence of their oldest child.
Do the right thing. It’s what I’ve always been told. But loyalty to me was top of that ‘right’ list. Because if you don’t have loyalty, if you don’t have trust, what do you have?
And then, they made it very, very easy for me.
“I found letters. Behind her bathroom mirror. I was cleaning her room. I wanted to surprise her. I wasn’t even looking for anything.  I found letters. I just need to know if it’s true.”
She couldn’t believe it. Was it some kind of joke? Was it real? How could this be true?
All at once I was relieved.
My decision was easy. I couldn’t lie to her parents in the face of evidence (and what kind of STUPID teacher writes his student love letters!!!)
“Yes. It’s true.”
There was much crying. Her father started openly crying. Her mother was sobbing. I was crying.
I dreaded what would happen when I’d have to face my BFF again. I couldn’t text her to warn her. I couldn’t even call her as she was out of town and I didn’t have the number.
Of course, she was angry and hurt when she found out I had confirmed to her parents.
Mr. W was forced to resign. He (and his family) moved out of town.
Did I mention that he was a popular, well loved teacher?
I learned about ‘mob’ mentality early in life. I learned about illogical ideas, illogical people. I learned early about hypocrisy.
For the cold shoulder I got from my friend was understandable, but the anger I received from the upper classmen because their beloved teacher was forced to resign, to move, was shocking.
The football coach (and PE teacher) called me into his office.
“Why did you do that?”
I was flustered. Why did I do that?
I was at fault?
Not the grown ass teacher sleeping with an impressionable student?
“Do you think she is the first one? Do you think this doesn’t go on? Do you think I haven’t had affairs?” And then he proceeded to name some girls who had graduated the year before. Pretty, popular, girls.
I had liked him (the football coach PE teacher) prior to this beatdown I was getting. Again, I never ever suspected, nor had I even heard any rumors about girls having sex with teachers. He told me if I breathed a word, he’d make my life miserable at school.
There was no “Google” back then. No place to go to find out if this was happening to other people (teachers having sex with students, teachers threating students for ‘whistle-blowing’). Of course, I did tell my close friends what the gym teacher had said, but we were all intimidated and afraid to say anything. It was a small school. You couldn’t exactly get lost in the crowd.
I learned sometimes it was easier not to raise hell when it came to the truth if it meant the difference between living comfortably or living in fear of retaliation.
I learned that even if you have a family that seems to have it all – loving parents, great brothers and sisters, great friends, it won’t protect you.
I learned that sex is confused with love and both can destroy.
After graduation, my BFF ran into Mr. W. He was in town with the team he was now coaching.
Despite all of the heartache and pain that Mr. W had inflicted on so many people, my BFF still held a romantic idea of him. She always regretted they didn’t “go all the way.”
Well, that night, many years later, my now married BFF and Mr. W (who was still married to the woman he had cheated on) – left the bar, rendezvoused on a dirt road, and consummated what they hadn’t when she was a young teenager.
When she told me, she was a bit ashamed – more so that her husband would find out – but more than anything, I think she was proud. “He still wanted me.”
To the outside world, she is the perfect mother, wife, and friend.
I bring up this story now because I was thinking of how illogical people can be. How popular opinion can turn what is true and right (teachers shouldn’t take advantage of young kids) – a true friend wouldn’t sleep with your teenage child – into hate against the person who committed no wrong other than telling the truth.
People often criticize me for standing up when I see other people being manipulated. They think I’m crazy for going against the grain.
It took me a-long time (and many mistakes) to realize that character is everything. Thinking individually is everything.
I see the way sex is portrayed as a ‘right’ – not something to be honored between loving, people in a committed union.
And the conflict! Women are taught that using sex is powerful. That sleeping around it powerful. That being free with sex is liberating.
And then they accuse men of raping them when he doesn’t call back.
They complain that men treat them as objects – meanwhile they dress like Beyonce and leave nothing to the imagination.
In my lifetime, sex has never, ever been ‘oppressive,’ though certainly, it has increasingly seeped into YA literature, movies, tv, songs – really, there is no escape from the taunting of lizard brain desires and, just like when you’re not hungry but you see a commercial for a fabulous pizza or smell steak on a BBQ, you want it.
In a society where ‘everyone’ is openly having sex, bragging about sex; it seems to me if you want to be truly remarkable and individual, you will save your sex for the person who truly respects you. You won’t allow society to tell you there must be something wrong with you for not wanting to put out.
There are many things that happened in my past that shaped me into being outspoken and unconventional – but there is no doubt that the experience of Mr. W and my best friend; the fallout that occurred after, is one defining episode of my life.
My ‘teachers’ and my peers may have intimidated me into being ‘quiet’ when I was a teenager, but I am no longer that impressionable, and certainly no longer enraptured with what society and culture tell me I’m missing out on.
Know that as a parent, you can do all the right things, and still, if a pervert wants to take advantage of your child, he will. From experience I can tell you it is a MYTH that girls seek the attention of men if/when their fathers’ are not ‘involved.’
Girls seek the attention of men because A)It is part of nature. B)Because everything in society tell you to be of importance, you must be half of a whole.
Watch what your kids read. It is hard for me to find any Young Adult books that don’t contain sex, drugs, and violence not as a warning, but as desirable.
Don’t count on the church to give your children morals and values. Or anyone else for that matter. You need to instill that in them, and more importantly, you need to show them by YOUR action (something I learned a bit too late!).
Well, that’s all I have to say. Maybe not quite. I hope Mr. W and my old gym teacher have a constant case of genital warts. And I hope the wives’ they cheated on wised up, divorced them, and got a big fat alimony check.

Liberal Author Joseph Reagle Jr Attacks White Male "Christians"

Another liberal barley containing his prejudiced against Conservatives, Preppers, and religious people.
in the book:  " Reading the Comments: Likers, Haters, and Manipulators at the Bottom of the Web"
byJoseph M. Reagle Jr.

Though this book has some great nuggets of information in it (best selling authors who have created sock puppet accounts to go after reviewers or other authors) it doesn't really offer anything that people who have been active in forums don't already know. And I would suspect, for those who don't frequent comment sections (or rarely do) - they would care.
Though Reagle advocated for the right to have individual thought - unfortunately, he writes with bias of one that lives in the tower of academia. He can hardly veil his contempt for Conservative values as he describers "Preppers" as White Christian Conservative Males and gives an example of ONE man who allegedly has placed a gun in his 5 year old sons' bug out bag. Like Rachel Dozell, the Rolling Stone Magazine college "rape" story, it's difficult not to know if this video described by Reagle is an actual person, or a person that is an activist with the intent of dehumanizing truly independent thought.
I don't know many preppers, but I do know there is a "prepper" in the Amazon Vine program (or was...) and she is young, beautiful, and never brings religion up in any of her reviews.
And what if people are religious? Is that unacceptable? And why is it okay to make a blanket statement that "preppers are white male Christians" - that is like saying "terrorists are mostly black male Muslims" -
Most of the 'hate' directed at women online (I speak from experience) is from white male liberals who self-identify as atheists. This was mentioned in the book, except for the 'liberal' part.
Reagle also pointed out the Republican owner of a restaurant who was "flamed" on Yelp after hugging Obama who stopped in at his restaurant.
Reagle at no time points out all the horrible comments made to black conservatives like Ben Carson, Star Parker, Mia Love. He doesn't talk about the outpouring of hate for Ted Cruz or Mark Rubio.
He doesn't talk about the hate that Stacey Dash goes through, and did not mention one peep about how is attacked like a the guy who walks into a Sugar Addict meeting carrying free donuts.
This is a one sided narrative falling in line with collective thinking - offering nothing new.
An odd thing is - this book is being offered for free in the Amazon Vine. People who 'get things' in exchange for reviews often rate the product higher in order to 'rank up.'
So Reagle, himself, is trying to manipulate his ranking.
It's common sense people.
And at 15.00 bucks in the Kindle store - Reagle is obviously a great fan of capitalism - unless, of course, he plans on donating to the Hillary Clinton "Help Bring Back My Emails" campaign.
Not worth the value at 15.00 - maybe 2.99.

These are my Kindle Highlights which show examples of his pigeon holing of people on the right and religious people: 

At YouTube, prepper reviewers are typically white Christian men who are concerned with an over-reaching big government, gun rights, and the collapse of civil society. Their slogan is “pray for the best, prepare for the worst.” As one blog posting noted, these folk are “completely obsessed with both gear and the idea of self-sufficiency. They prize durability and functionality in a product because their fervency makes them believe their livesRead more at location 835   • Delete this highlight
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(I wonder, how often will his fifth grader need to carry an M4 or drag a wounded teammate?) One can even find someRead more at location 858   • Delete this highlight
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For instance, a creationist might post the same critical review across multiple books on evolution. She might do this from the same account or through multiple accounts, known as sockpuppets. Finally, reviewers might plagiarize their own reviews across products to increase their review count and credibility (although, as I discuss below, some top reviewers’ numbers lead to incredulity).Read more at location 957   • Delete this highlight

when Barack Obama visited a Florida pizza parlor. When the owner, a registered Republican, made the most of the visit by endorsing and embracing the president in a bear hug, the owner’s Yelp page exploded with hundreds of partisan, nonpizza-related comments.Read more at location 1066   • Delete this highlight

Aspen Matis - Spoiled Rich Girl Who Profits Off Rape Claim

Aspen Matis Profits Off Rape 
I thought White Privilege complex couldn't get any worse than Spinster: Making A Life of One's Own.
However, it does get worse when Aspen Matis opens her book with (Chapter One) - "I lived my first eighteen and a half years in a white Colonial in the idyllic town of Newton, Massachusetts."
Well, from there on, it is a tale of a very spoiled elite white girl who invites a guy to her freshman dorm, he has sex with her. She claims she was unwilling, and even though she was unwilling, she invites him to spend the night.
The college refuses to find her alleged rapist "guilty" because it is a he said she said and also, there is conflicting evidence  (Mattress Girl anyone?) that she was more than willing.
Aspen then goes on a hike to prove her independence (funded by her family, of course), and meets, falls in love with, and marries a man she meets 10 days into her journey.
Well, so much for independence.
She consistently lashes out at her parents (who have provided for her).
It is hard for my to find any sympathy for a spoiled rich girl who willingly lived off her parents all the while throwing her middle finger at them.
I find it hard to believe her story is not simply a "LOOK AT ME" attempt to make money (capitalism! Horrible until, of course, you seek to profit!)
Rolling Stone ran with an outright made up story of a rape on U of Va campus. Jezebel was all over that. The news (run by liberals) all over that.
Then months later, it's discovered it was all a lie. And not a peep from the mainstream media. Not a peep from Jezebel.
White girls being raped on campus - horrible!
But black girls being raped by privileged white men? Silence.
Jezebel hasn't mentioned Iasha Rivers. Liberal media hasn't mentioned Iasha Rivers.
And in the mean time - rich, elitist, (sorry I'm white but I'll take my parents money, I don't need a man but I DO) Aspen Matis scores a bookdeal about her traumatizing torture (I jest) of being "forced" to have sex.
All theses liberals in NYC - on the east coast, waxing poetic about the horrible racism in America, yet they reward liberal white rich chicks who profit off of a one night stand - and yet when a very beautiful young black woman goes to the ER because she is BLEEDING from her woman parts - after waking up in the home of a wealthy white lawyer after a party for Al Sharpton - you have liberal white female reporter for the New York Daily News writing a column saying that Iasha Rivers basically deserved it because "if you lay down with dogs you wake up with fleas."
Wake Up America. True racism? Look at the liberal world of publishing. They freely give money to their "own" (white privileged girls) and turn their backs on true victims (Iasha Rivers).

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Black EMT Refuses To Do CPR on Black Baby - Where's The Outrage

The EMT (who was initially given a 29 day suspension) was quoted as having said she PARKED on the next street, REFUSED to help because "you know how these families get." After the attention the news brought to the situation, she was FINALLY fired. Where is Al Sharpton? Why is the NATIONAL media not reporting this? Imagine is a white EMS person had refused CPR on a black baby. On so many levels, this is a huge symptom of everything wrong with America - starting with dividing us into groups/against each other, entitlement (I aint gotta DO that!). I truly hope the cops in Detroit park their car a block away from Ann Marie Thomas's house when she calls 911 to report the family of the dead baby trying to break down her door.

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Honor Flight Philly Video

Please check the Honor Flight website and if you ever have the chance to attend a "Welcome Home" event - it will be one of the most rewarding experiences of your life!

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Donald Trump - Rich Enough To Be His Own Hitman

Get clued, people! Every politician has their 'hit men' - people/groups who do the dirty work behind the scenes. Ron Davis (who now is one of the key leaders in Obama's push to take over law enforcement) and David Axlerod were Obama's top hitmen when he was running for Senator in Chicago and played some low down dirty tactics.

Trump, to his credit, at least has the gold-plated brass balls to call a hater a hater.

The Truth About Police Brutality

This is a great video. I posted this thinking of my friends who are not in EMS or Law Enforcement. All my friends know is the news reports about the 1% of cops and not the 99% who are underpaid, overworked, rarely get good sleep, and bounce between people who hate them because they chose to make a difference and people who call them because they can't figure out how to work their remote control garage door opener.

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Honor Flight - The Most Uplifting Experience of My Life

WWII Vet Salutes Crowd at St. Kevin Parish, Springfield PA
 On May 31 - we drove to St. Kevin's Parish in Springfield to welcome home a group of WWII Veterans who had just experienced the Honor Flight. It was one of the most uplifting, emotional, event I've ever been to. From the volunteers to the people who gathered to greet the returning Vets, everyone was extremely kind. We must never forget, and we should continue to respect our men and women in the military. Without them, we would have nothing. You can attend an honor flight event (it's free!) - just check their schedule online. Honor Flight is only doing this until they've flown all the Vets to the Memorial in Washington DC. If you can't attend, you can always watch the great documentary, Honor Flight The Movie  about how it went from an idea to a reality. It's a wonderful, inspiring, movie. Available to buy or rent on the usual suspects (Amazon) and sometimes Netflix. 

Here are some pictures from our great day. So honored to have been there.
An Honor Flight Vet becomes emotional. 

I Am In The Presence Of Greatness 

I'd rather have my picture taken with this Hero than I would Mark Walhberg!

EMS salute as Honor Flight are led by Police/Biker Escort

The picture below is of Joe Demler WWII POW who withered away to 70 pounds after he was captured. His story is one of many inspiring stories featured in Honor Flight the Movie. His motto in life: Every Day Is A Bonus!
Joe Demler WWII POW - said he survived by believing "Every Day Is a Bonus.

Monday, June 1, 2015

Whoron Alert - Liberal Professor Adam Benforado is Anti-Cop Pro Big Gov

The book Unfair: The New Science of Criminal Injustice by Adam Benforado is going to be released in June, 2015. This is yet another Liberal Whoron who is anti-police, lives in a classroom, yet thinks he knows better than cops. Benforado takes the academic/superior illusion stage by insisting that criminals are not responsible for their actions. 
 The book "Something That Will Change Your Life" - explains how rank strivers like Benforado are corrupting character in an attempt to establish dependency on Govt and academic robot's like Benforado. The phrase "New Science" in his title is a red flag. New Science is a marketing term designed to attract people who are desperate to be 'in the know.' In 2005 Benforado wrote an article for the Baltimore Sun titled "The Conservative Hypocrisy." 
And Benforado was a student of...WAIT FOR IT...Elizabeth Warren - Ms. Warren flips houses on the side, lives in a mansion, all the while proclaiming the evils of rich people.

This is my review posted on Amazon of Benforado's book Unfair

We should be careful to distinguish the Physical Sciences and Behavioral Sciences (Opinion Sciences) which they resemble only in pantomime. The astonishing success of the physical sciences, from molecular biology to astrophysics, is what gives the Opinion Scientists the arrogance to pretend they’re doing the same thing as authentic scientists. Experiments that furnish the data for the Opinion Science lack the test tubes, the microscopes, the particle accelerators that impress us regular Joes about traditional science. Opinion Science uses hard-to-define phenomena as thoughts, motives, mental impressions, emotional reactions, and so on.
Benforado is a professor trying to flex his superiority muscles and he does an incredibly transparent job of showing his lack of courage and independent thought by his attacks of those who wake everyday and have the courage to face danger, not to write opinions about what the courageous are doing wrong. Opinion Science and marketing have replaced reason, common sense, and natural instinct.
Apparently only Opinion Science will save us now!
The Physical Sciences has given us fantastic improvement and improved the the standard of living;—e.g., trauma repair, agriculture and engineering. But where the conscientious scientist fears to tread, or only goes with highly specified trepidation, marketers rush in and offer Godly salvation by scientistatically explaining the world in ways that benefit their organizations or causes. Ed Bernays perfected the spin that anything vaguely scientific will convince us to buy their explanation.
As Neil Postman said about the scientific view: “In the end, science does not provide the answers most of us require. Its story of our origins and our end is, to say the least, unsatisfactory. To the question, “How did it all begin?”, science answers, “Probably by an accident.” To the question, “How will it all end?”, science answers, “Probably by an accident.” For many people, the accidental life is not worth living."

For the past century or so, psychologists have considered themselves scientists whose methods and theories are the same as those of the biologist or physicist; true science relies on objective investigation – behavioral science however relies on emotion and opinion and can’t be objectively measured.
Opinion Science has us believing that there are no more bad people in the world; there are only mentally ill people. The “insanity defense” excuses bad behavior, excessive gratification, a lack of willpower , and tragedy. And worse yet, it not only gives people the green light to do whatever, it silences any criticism. So if the community is too afraid to be vocal and demand that people take personal responsibility – if there are no consequences, or worse, WORSE, if the consequences of their actions lead to consoling and sympathy, it further encourages behavior that creates disenchanted and broken spirits.
I was a paramedic - not a great one. Not a bad one. The great medics, I found, were those who worked constantly - at the busiest squads, who had the most experience. They relied on their experience and common sense.
The worst medics were the 'book smart' medics who attended the most prestigious schools. They were the worst. They couldn't put an IV in the anticube of a 17 year old bodybuilding champ. However, at least both the book smart and the street smart medic are actually on the battlefield.
Benforado is far from the battlefield. He is sitting enclosed in an office, sifting through studies, and like the Monday Morning Quarterback, thinks because he watches football and reads sports magazines, he knows exactly how the quarterback could have won the game.
If you're easily swayed by titles, I suppose you'll swoon over Unfair.
If you can think for yourself, judge life based on experiences not arm chair experts, then you can skip this and be much wiser for it.

Wednesday, May 13, 2015

Rudolph Keitt - A Tale Of Criminal Character

Rudolph Keitt 
You may have missed this story because of the Amtrak accident in Philly.
On May 12th, Tuesday afternoon, according to Philly News, 4 Police Officers were injured when the driver of a car lost control and tried to run them over.
Rudolph Keitt was the driver, and police ended up shooting him (because he had crashed into a fire truck, other cars, and had hit 4 cops) to stop the threat to innocent bystanders.  
Of course, Keitt's family is blaming his erratic actions   on the fact he has a history of seizures and had open heart surgery (last year). 
There will be outrage as a medical excuse is used to justify the fact Keitt tried to run over cops. 
But let's not forget that if you have active seizures, for the safety of the public, you are not legally allowed to drive. So why was he driving if he is 'prone to seizures'? 
Also, Keitt has a long criminal history; Kevin Keitt (his brother) acknowledged Rudolph had an "extensive" criminal history.
Rudolph Keitt's record includes charges of aggravated assault and carrying a firearm without a license in 1991, resisting arrest in 1995, and a drug-dealing charge in 2010. According to court records, he was convicted of the assault, firearms, and drug charges, and pleaded guilty to resisting arrest.

Let's see, if the cops wouldn not have tried to stop Keitt  - he could have killed innocent bystanders, including children, and the cops would be blamed for not stopping him.  

Also - who paid for his previous heart surgery? Were his heart problems caused by drug use? If so, who paid for his heart surgery? I hope he used the money he made from selling drugs to pay his hospital bills. There are more people that don't break the law, live a good life, and can't afford life saving surgeries because they aren't 'poor' enough - there are many military vets who have serious medical problems but get ignored - something is inherently wrong with this picture. People talk about 'fairness' - and 'justice' - how is it that a criminal receives medical care while honorable, law abiding, courageous men and women are not only ignored by the Veterans Administration  -but have died from being ignored

Imagine that Keitt had driven onto the Amtrak train tracks and caused the derailment that happened - what then? 
Well, the BEM (Black Exploitation Machine of Al Sharpton and Obama Admin) would have said that 6 deaths and almost 200 injured were caused by Oppression and somehow, they would justify the deaths of the Amtrak victims, claim it will take more government to save us, and erect a statue to Rudolph Keitt. 

It's really time to take Martin Luther Jr's suggestion to heart: "Judge a person on his character, not his color."

Keitt's character was one of corruption. Perhaps he was 'trying to get his life back on the right path' - but I won't rush to judge the men and women who risked their lives, and now their careers, because they acted quickly to stop a threat to the public, even though the police have become the favorite villain of the media and the Obama administration.

“There is apparently some connection between dissatisfaction with oneself and a proneness to credulity. The urge to escape our real self is also an urge to escape the rational and the obvious. The refusal to see ourselves as we are develops a distaste for facts and cold logic. There is no hope for the frustrated in the actual and the possible. Salvation can come to them only from the miraculous, which seeps through a crack in the iron wall of inexorable reality. They ask to be deceived. What Stresemann said of the Germans is true of the frustrated in general: "They pray not only for their daily bread, but also for their daily illusion." The rule seems to be that those who find no difficulty deceiving themselves are easily deceived by others. They are easily persuaded and led.”

― Eric Hoffer

“What we call our destiny is truly our character and that character can be altered. The knowledge that we are responsible for our actions and attitudes does not need to be discouraging, because it also means that we are free to change this destiny. One is not in bondage to the past, which has shaped our feelings, to race, inheritance, background. All this can be altered if we have the courage to examine how it formed us. We can alter the chemistry provided we have the courage to dissect the elements.”
― Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 1: 1931-1934

Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Courage and Character Will Shine Over Shadow

When a cop is killed in the line of duty, I change my Facebook profile to a mourning badge and then leave it up until after the cop’s funeral. It seems that this year, my profile picture has featured a mourning badge than pictures of myself (or family, dogs, bacon and martinis). I know that people have put my on “mute” or unfriended me. They miss the happy go laura (you think I don’t?) and dislike being reminded of negative things. I feel a tremendous amount of anger and sadness when a cop is killed and it’s not because I’m married to a cop (who simply believes dying in the line of duty is part of the risk) and he is a bit mortified at my outrage . It’s not because my uncle was a State Trooper. It’s not because my father’s nephews were/are cops (one in Baltimore, who has just resigned, thanks Mayor Blake!). I’m outraged because I grew up being taught to respect police, fireman, military, – anyone who has the courage to put on a uniform, go out in any kind of weather, deal with harsh conditions, harsh people, doing what other people do not have the balls to do. I’ve watched as not only the media, but the leadership of this country, have villainized the actual heroes of America. I’ve watched as criminals are turned into saints and heroes are turned into devils. My parents, my teachers, my community, taught me that right is right and wrong is wrong. Not that I always listened, but I had that knowledge, that goodness, to strive for. It’s funny, looking back, all the times I ‘partied’ have absolutely no value today. What I do value are the accomplishments, the times I rose above adversity, the times I was able to turn obstacles into opportunity. The times I challenged myself to improve and I did. When I was growing up, the most outrageous show was Three’s Company. A man living with two single woman? The scandal! Now we have a media and culture that celebrify teen pregnancy, create fake rape stories and celebrify terrorists on magazine covers. We have a culture that believe it’s okay to place a crucifixion in a bottle of piss and offend Christians because it’s “art” but don’t draw a cartoon of Muhammad because we one religion (the religion that beheads Christians, gays, and women) is better than another. I still would not call myself a ‘grown up’ – but I would say that I have ‘wised up.’ My experiences in life have taught me that the more we can trust each other, the more we can pursue personal dreams. The more we can trust each other, the more confidence and kindness we show. The more we distrust – the less confidence we have in others, and in ourselves. The less confidence we have, the less courage we have to seek out independent dreams. Individuality, independence is what America was built on. Grit. Moxie. Determination. Trust. Anyone who has ever been in a bad relationship knows that a lack of trust kills happiness. A lack of trusts means you spend much of your time looking for signs of cracks – time that you could spend doing something way more productive. Time wasted wondering what you did, why you weren’t good enough – which erodes your spirit, your sense of value. The last 7 years, our country has been in a relationship with cheaters. Cheaters in the media. Cheaters as leaders. They contradict their stories. They outright lie (Brian Williams, I’m looking at you). They deceive. They blame the person they are cheating on – they blame loyal Americans who work hard but the media and the cheaters disguised as leaders push the idea hardworking Americans should be ashamed because of their skin color (white) and aren’t doing enough to help the less fortunate . Of course, they blame middle America for not doing enough as they fly around the world in jets, ride in limos, and use personal chefs and pay low wages to the illegal aliens they hire to mow their lawns. They blame the military. They blame cops. They blame job creators. They divide people into groups. Men Vs Women. Heterosexuals vs Homosexuals. Christians vs Muslims. Street Smart Vs Book Smart. Teachers Vs Parents. Blacks Vs White. Americans Vs Illegal Aliens. Old Vs Young. Growing up, I never, ever saw color. You were judged by your actions, not your skin color. In the last 7 years, we’ve gone from judging people on their actions, to judging people by their skin color, their choice of profession, their political and religious affiliation. Everything I was taught is backwards. If we live in a society where it is better to be corrupt than courageous, to be silent (or worse yet, to be a siren for the shady and to lick the boot of the swindlers due to a lack of spine), then everything that America was built on has crumbled. The men and women who sacrificed their lives so that we may have machines to make our coffee in under 5 seconds, sit in cars that drive for us, and send people messages while we are sitting on the toilet… they have sacrificed for nothing. And so, that is why I feel fresh anger every time a cop is killed and the media would have you believe that cops are the enemy, criminals are our friends. Virtue is ugly and Violence is beautiful. Eric Hoffer once stated; “Hatred is the most accessible and comprehensive of all the unifying agents. Mass movements can rise and spread without belief in a god, but never without a belief in a devil.” When the media and the ‘leaders’ of America, have, for the last 7 years, turned their attention into turning the very people who are the most courageous of all; out military and police, into “devils” – distracting the public with the very few bad examples, I fear not for the lives of those I love, but for the fabrics that were woven to create the Independence of America: Courage. Character. Honor. Determination. Trust. United We Stand. Divided We Fall. And every time a police officer falls in the line of duty and the media breeze over it and Obama sends representatives to the funerals of criminals but not police or military, we lose not just a hero who’s sacrifice is ignored, we lose a bit of the very fabric, the values, that make America strong. But as long as we are aware of what is happening, how we are being undermined, we will rise above adversity. As long as we acknowledge the truth that the only 'oppression' in America, is the oppression of courage and character at the hands of the corrupt, we will triumph. This is America. And in America, we shine over shadow. Rest In Peace NYPD Brian Moore - 5/4/15
Rest In Peace Idaho Police Sgt. Greg Moore from Coeur d’Alene 5/5/15
Rest In Peace k9 officer Lt. Eric Eslary Ligonier Township Police Department - prayers up for his k9 Blek 5/5/15
 (Anna Nalick's song, "Shine" - inspired this essay).

Friday, May 1, 2015

No Justice For Iasha Rivers

You probably don't know about Iasha Rivers. In 2014, she was an executive for Macy's in New York city. beautiful and self-less, she devoted many hours volunteering for those less fortunate.  She attended a party. She woke up the next morning in a man's bedroom. A very old man. A very rich man. She was bruised and bleeding from her vagina. She didn't remember what happened. 
She went home and confided her fear to a friend. The friend urged her to go to the ER - it sounded as though she might have been slipped something in her drink. 
Iasha Rivers faced a huge problem. If she accused the old powerful rich man of rape - what would happen to her? 
Well, she mustered up her courage and filed charges, as reported by the New York Daily News on October 14th, 2014.  I mean, she was on the board of the National Action Network. Which is about the protection and support of the black community. 
Oh, wait, did I mention that Iasha is a young beautiful black woman? The man she accused of raping her is white. Old. White. Rich. A civil rights attorney, as a matter of fact. His name is Sanford Rubenstein. He was actually kicked out of sex club a few weeks after the rape accusation. And a his ex-girlfriend (also black and very young) asked her to have an orgy
You would think, with all the rage against the establishment, the major news stations would report on this story. Nah, just a few New York papers who aren't afraid of the Al Sharpton machine gun. 
Oh, did I mention that Sanford Rubenstein is a life long friend of Al Sharpton? 
You would think Jezebel would report on it. They are pro-woman after all. Nah...though they believe women who drink and party shouldn't be 'shamed' if they are taken advantage of...but Iasha Rives? Well, she's black. So I guess Jezebel doesn't think she is important.
All these protests for the rights of black criminals. Male. Black Criminals. But when the  Manhattan District Attorney’s Office said they didn't have enough evidence to charge white lawyer Rubenstein, there was no outrage. No charges of white/lawyerly bias. And Al Sharpton, who makes a living being outraged by white people mistreating black people...nothing. 
All the civil rights groups tweeting out support for Iasha Rivers...nothing.
The war on women? If there is a war, it's apparent it's the left shooting us down. Take liberal Linda Stasi, columnist at New York Daily News - who did bother to write about the accusation, and said Iasha was at fault for KNOWING Al Sharpton hangs around with slime balls and Iasha deserved it because she allowed herself to get drunk (what is she didn't get drunk? What if she was slipped a drug and the New York DA is covering up for his liberal buddy?). The hypocrisy of the left is amazing - I hope Iasha Rivers realizes the mistake she made wasn't in believing in civil rights, it was believing Democrats actually care. They don't. They will sell out in a second for the sake of power, money, street cred.  
Is it because she's not a man? Is it because she's a smart woman who works and doesn't make a living deal drugs or stealing? 
The bottom line is this - Al Sharpton is a dirty, filthy, man who exploits black people, black women, and makes his living inciting hate. 
He turned on his employee. He turned on a 'sister' in favor of an equally dirty, corrupt 'mister' - but I guess because Sanford Rubenstein is rich, white is right. 
The spiral downward of America and our character, our ability to trust those in charge, lands squarely in the lap of those who "lead" our country. 
And the person who 'leads' our country is best friends with Al Sharpton (gee - Obama has young daughters who could grow up to look like Iasha Rivers...)
Al Shartpon, who owes millions in back taxes (meanwhile small family businesses are being locked down and extorted). 
Al Sharpton has been accused by Eric Garner's family of exploiting them for his own purpose (money and power).
Corporations have accused Al Sharpton of extorting them for cash in exchange for not attacking them using his "grass roots" protesters to harass them with racism charges. 
Corruption clings to Al Sharpton like spider webs in dark corners of a tall ceiling. 
Anywhere you see Al Sharpton, someone is being paid off and someone is being bought someone is being bribed.  
The mayor of Baltimore welcomed Al Sharpton and praised him. After. of course, she made sure the police did not offend looters and rioters. After of course, she said criminals should be given space to destroy. 
We can never know what happened between Iasha Rivers and Sanford Rubenstein. But from the media silence, and more importantly, Al Sharpton and NAN silence's after Iasha River's sexual assault,  we can for sure say one thing; Al Sharpton doesn't care about justice for blacks - he only cares about the color green. 
The more division he creates between black vs white, everyone vs cops,  - the more his crony pal's at the White House will be called in to 'control' the chaos. 
I don't know Iasha Rivers - but I can only imagine how heart broken she is that a cause she once believed in totally turned against her when she did the right thing. 
Where's the justice and outrage for Iasha Rivers?
Well, I guess she'll have to have a sex change operation, sell drugs, steal, and then be killed by a white cop. Because, according to liberal media, the civil rights movement, Jezebel, NOW, NAN, and Al Sharpton, a black woman being raped by a rich white guy is justice.
Hands Up For Al Sharpton - so he can take your wallet. Legs up for creepy Sanford Rubenstein so he can assault you. Eyes down when you see truth - because apparently, it will blind you. 

"Hypocrite: the man who murdered both his parents... pleaded for mercy on the grounds that he was an orphan." ~Abraham Lincoln




Monday, April 27, 2015

Before You Marry That Cop -

With all the cop bashing in the media – one continuing ‘excuse’ I hear is “Well, this is what they signed up for.” 
Sorry. Cops did NOT sign up for being made the villains by media because creating chaos is what they do best: The media turn a surface wound into an amputated limb when it fits their agenda; because if it bleeds, it leads!
Cops did NOT sign up for being found guilty within hours of taking action that may or may not be questionable, or having poop thrown at them or having their squad cars used as toilets.
Cops did not sign up for any of that. 
That being said - I've heard from many women who are married to cops and while they understood much of what the road ahead meant, they've admitted there were many surprises along the way. It's not that they are complaining, it's just that they are saying it's way more complicated than it appears.

Before you marry that cop…
What no one will tell you is that you will never sleep well again.
Day shift he gets up at 4:30 am. Night shift he arrives home at 7:00 am.
And God forbid a neighbor mows his lawn at 10:00 in the morning while he’s sleeping. When he’s off during his night-shift rotation, he can’t sleep at night and struggles to stay awake during the day.
His back will hurt because he carries at least twenty-pound of weight on his belt and sits uncomfortably in a car – climbing in, climbing out.
Advise your family to buy stock in Advil. He will eat it. Like candy.
You will want to complain about normal things: the dogs tracked dirt in the house, the dishwasher has a leak, your kids won’t do their chores.
The husband who’s been beaten by the job will hear you, but won’t really listen. Because he spends the majority of the time listening to other peoples’ problems. He’ll think, “You have no idea how lucky you have it.” If you’re really fortunate, he won’t say it, but that’s what he’ll think.
The husband who has been beaten by the job will become a ‘chopper’ – a person who chops down  everyone and everything. No situation or person is off limits. Becoming hard is part of the job. If they didn’t see the laughter in everything they wouldn't be able to handle anything.
Before you marry that cop…
Realize that your husband will be judged by the actions of his co-workers. Though cops are a protective arm of government, they are the part of government people see every day. They are easy to identify and they are easy targets for people who make a living breeding hate. You will not only have to worry about your husband’s safety, but if someone from his department makes a questionable decision, you will have to worry about the safety of yourself, your parents, and your children. This type of situation doesn’t happen often, but when and if it does, think about how you will handle it.
If you marry a cop and he is killed in the line of duty – will you be able to fight to keep his name from being tarnished and fight for justice like Maureen Faulkner has for over 25 years?
If you marry a cop, remember that you agreed to be part of the Blue Family – but also remember that you did not give your children that choice. They will be scrutinized, judged, and held to a higher standard. They will worry about his safety. Day shift. Night shift. They will worry when their parents fight about over-time versus family-time.
Before you marry a cop…realize that 90% of the time, it’s not only the media and professional protesters that beat down your husband, it’s also the Chief, the administration, and the city council – who are judged by the money they save so they save it by cutting back on cop salaries, benefits, radios, training and computers.
Before you marry a cop, consider my advice. It will seldom be easy, it is seldom nice. Before you say I do, don’t think once, think twice! - Anon

Monday, April 20, 2015

Gretchen Carlson's Superiority Problem

A review of "Getting Real" by Gretchen Carlson.

First off, my apologies to Gretchen's parents,  Mr. and Mrs. Carlson - they seem like awesome parents and my take-away message from this book is the power of family. I, like Gretchen, consider myself an Independent voter, so please, before people jump on me for thinking I'm giving this book one star because of politics, this has nothing to do with politics. I adore Dana Perino and watch Red Eye and listen to Brian Kilmeade - this has nothing to do with politics but does have to do with people who live life as if they are striving to be significant or those that live life as if they are superior. After reading "Getting Real" Gretchen falls into the "I am Superior" category.
I started off loving Getting Real. The book opens with stories about Gretchen's family - her grandparents, her mother and father and how they met. Her small town family life growing up.
Then, we get into THE Violin.
Oh boy. This is where the book takes a nose dive.
Gretchen speaks about humility all through the book, yet it's ironic because she totally lacks humility.
There are so many contradictions in this book I don't know where to begin.
She reminds the reader often how she SACRIFICED her social life but she was an EXCEPTIONAL violinist. I'm not even sure if she is aware, but she often backhands and diminishes "common" people...while her friends were going to football games, she had talent that she had to nurture, implying they did not.
She spends the whole book reminding us how SMART she is and how women shouldn't be judged on looks - yet...she admits she lost 30 pounds because a boy didn't want to date her. There is a section in the book where she just gloats about being able to fit into her Miss America gown many years later. So, here she is, all through the book whining people don't see her as being smart and that people should stop concentrating on looks and beauty, yet she is ecstatic and brags that she was able to fit into her old Miss America gown that she wore to give a speech.
The Miss America Pageant is a great example of being dismissive and putting down other women and also, contradictions.  Gretchen went to college at Stanford and said she was thrilled because no one knew her. She loved the anonymity. She states, "I did everything in my power to remain anonymous." (Oh really?)  But then she tells a story of how, even though she was sick of the violin, she couldn't quite stop herself from trying out for a music teacher at the school. "When I finished, I looked up to find him staring at me dumbfounded. "Why have I not heard of you?"
So, she tried desperately to remain anonymous (for 2 whole weeks) but then she just couldn't resist showing off and making it well known who she was.
She tells the story of how a professor disliked her for NO REASON and gave her a C. She'd never got a C in her LIFE! She states she didn't think she deserved it, but then states perhaps she did...
Then we get to the Miss American pagent.
Her mom called her at Stanford to tell her the director announced he wants Ivy League contestants and people with talent. Gretchen goes on to say that she was just going to be herself - she wasn't going to be like the contestants who had gone before her - she would be natural. And then she goes on to tell us she quit Stanford and spent the months leading up to the pageant studying tapes of previous pageants, taking notes, going to coaches. She was advised she should play the fiddle. She dismisses "fiddle" players. GRETCHEN had been playing CLASSICAL music her whole life (except when she ditched it at Stanford) - that's a WHOLE different craft than fiddling (get that fiddlers, you aren't as great).
Gretchen constantly did mock interviews in preparation for the pageant. I admire her tenacity and dedication, but do NOT tell us that you were the first person to be "yourself" and "natural" when you spent months studying tapes, going to coaches, learning how to sit properly, changing the way you talk and use your arms...that is NOT being yourself.
Then Gretchen, who talks about the importance of morals and family values tells us (after she GLOATS about her wining the MAP - as the first SMART contestant (you hear that former were stupid, based on looks, Gretchen was the FIRST with REAL talent and intelligence) that after she won - she (all of 22 years old) dated a 45 year old man. Everyone was horrified. As they SHOULD BE. Here is a 'role model' of young women dating a man old enough to be her father. But Gretchen explained this as if it was no big deal because SHE WAS WORLDLY, because she had an exceptional life and was so talented, she knew better than every other 22 year old girl. And that, really, is the theme of the book. How much better and smarter she is than everyone else - there is no humility though she claims she is very humble. But here are some excerpts of the book, you tell me if these are humble statements: "I appreciated the benefits of being unique and exceptional." "get away from the burdens imposed by my talent" "I was used to getting perfect grades" "when I walked out on the stage the whole room gasped and applauded" "I was having experiences that my schoolmates in Minnesota could not grasp." "Everyone should be pitching stories LIKE GRETCHEN." Those are just few examples, there are many veiled 'I am superior" statements throughout.
After winning the MAP, she returns after a year, to Stanford and no one knows who she is,which she claims to 'love.' She takes a feminist class and though she wants to remain anonymous, she just...can' herself from writing a paper about her winning the MAP (Don't look at me, HEY, WHY AREN'T YOU LOOKING AT ME!!!) and though she got an A on the paper, she's obviously bothered by the fact her professor didn't acknowledge to the class how there was a feminist STAR in their midst.
There is one part in the book where she states that working hard and being smart was not enough, she had to use humility and compassion and talk about WE not I - then she goes on and talks about herself, using I almost 20 times in two paragraphs.
The most troubling part of the book is the fact she professes to be champion of women in the workplace and to stop harassment of women in the work place.
She talks about speaking up and speaking out. Yet, she does NOT do this herself. Talk about a total hypocrite.
After winning the MAP, she tried to get into TV. She gives two examples of powerful men who forced themselves on her. She does not give us the names of these men. She did not report them when it happened. So, all of this talk of 'going outside her comfort zone' and speaking up for women and equal treatment is disingenuous. Hogwash. If you aren't willing to stand up for yourself and allow men to intimidate you or put your career above the truth, nothing will ever change and you are NOT courageous. She tells of a story when a photographer came onto her - she almost didn't tell her boss - he had to drag it out of her. Hello? That is not courageous! She tells the story of how she was stalked (very scary - and here she has my empathy) - however - she almost didn't put the incident into the book because she was afraid he might come after her again. Then she found out he was dead - so she talked about it. Okay - if you WANT TO BRING ATTENTION to the stalking laws, you need to have the courage to speak up even if he was still alive. Look, I've got no problem if people are too intimidated to talk about it or decide they care more about safety and their peace of mind and go into hiding - but if you portray yourself as a warrior for women, then guess what, you need to live up to that and not simply SAY you are.
Gretchen wonders how many women were harassed (or worse) by the TV executives who harassed her. Hello? Yes, how many, Gretchen? You could have STOPPED that behavior but chose to remain silent because your career was more important. You are no champion of women.
And all the mentions of her "sacrificing" and killing herself working so hard - guess what...most women do that. It is NOT unique to you.
I have a feeling Gretchen is surrounded by people who are too intimated to tell her that she does indeed, lack humility, and her book "Getting Real" is a slap in the face of all those 'common' winners of the MAP, the "common" people of Anoka.
On a POSITIVE NOTE - (there are a few) - I read this in a day. It was compelling. This is a great testament to parents who encourage their children and give them a firm family foundation built on values. I'm not religious but I do admire those families that are and do believe that there is an unjust, unwarranted attack on Christians in this day and age. I do admire and fully appreciate one of the other themes of this book: Always Strive For A Goal. Always have a purpose. That is what life is about.
I'd suggest if Gretchen really wants to understand true humility (the line is very fine, I do understand that) - she read "I'll Drink To That" by Betty Halbreich. A woman born with a silver spoon in her mouth, who learns the true value of grace, hard work, and purpose.
Gretchen ends the book talking about all the volunteer work her and her family do; great, I applaud that. However, again, for all the times she talks about 'stepping outside her comfort zone' and being an 'outspoken' advocate for women - she could have made a REAL difference and possibly save(d) many women from being the sexual victims of some powerful TV executives - but she chose the easy way. When one of these men visited Fox Studios, what did Gretchen do? She quietly sat in her office, hiding out, and when he walked by, she shut the door. She hid. And let us not mistake her writing about these incidents as being courageous. It's like knowing who robbed your neighbors house, but refusing to tell the police.
If Gretchen wants to "Get Real" she needs to expose those who tried to take advantage of her so that the other victims have validation, to send the message to men (or women) that it will NOT be tolerated and we will not be intimated. Now THAT would be "Getting Real" - otherwise, this book is about "Getting Hoodwinked."

Monday, April 13, 2015

How The Greed Of GoFundMe Leads To Hateful Mob Mentality

Two very sad things happened yesterday which lead me to believe hate does breed hate - and people do not stop to think.

On 4/12 - there was a fundraiser held in Jamison to raise money for the care of the Tully children - which caused Eddie Tully (Chris's brother) to go off the deep end and Tweet, Facebook (on several different facebook pages) a very chilling rant against Kelli Tully - accusing her of causing Eddie Tully to commit suicide. Less  than 24 hours later, the rant has almost 500 likes. Most distressing are the people (who don't even know her) calling her horrible names. Many of these are students that Chris taught. No one can know what really happens between a married couple. And Eddie's social media attack will prove to the reasonable person that he does not have the best interest of his family, of Chris's children, at heart.
Eddie Tully alleges that Chris was 'abused' at the hands of his wife.
Chris has been described as a loving father. No one has disputed that. Would a loving father commit suicide to 'escape' the abuse of a wife, leaving his children in her care? The reasonable, thinking person would conclude that the type of father Chris was described as, would have fought to the end for his children if he felt there was abuse.

The Tully boys have lost their father - they are devastated. Now they have an Uncle who is bringing even more pain into their lives - and people who are commenting critically about their mother. These people claim to 'love Chris' - but if they truly did, they would not want to do anything to harm his children.

Links to Eddie's rant:
On his twitter: (screen shot at bottom of post)

"Still can't believe that this bitch can have the audacity to use the Christopher Tully name to raise money for herself when she resented his popularity so much that it made him have to be put on medication that eventually killed him. She hated the way people felt about him. Yes hated it!!!! Sorry I just can't keep quite anymore. Just can't. Oh and yes I'm all for his kids being taken care of, he left her plenty of money!!! And when my family offered to open a trust for them she flat out told us not to. Don't believe me? I'll let you hear it for yourself if you like to hear the messages!!! Again sorry been bitting my tongue too long. I think it's time the truth comes out. He couldnt fight for himself because of how she put him down. It's too late to bring him back but I can't live another day holding this in. This is not opinion....he left enough behind for his own words to be heard. If you have been confused about the tragedy that took place don't worry his voice will be heard!!! I owe that to him."

My observation: "He left her plenty of money!" - Who is Eddie to judge how much "money" is enough? What if the boys want to go to an expensive college? Does Eddie have children? Does he even know how much money it costs to raise one child let alone three?
"she resented his popularity so much that it made him have to be put on medication that eventually killed him" - Wow. That's a serious statement - pretty much calling her a murderer.
He offered to set up a trust fund and she refused. Hmmm, judging from Eddie's name calling and total disregard for his nephews, I'd have to say she made the right choice. I certainly wouldn't 'trust' him either.

A few comments:
Chuck Cifelli Wow .. what a fucking cunt !!! May she burn in hell !!!!!!!!!!! 

Dolores Francia Ed, she looked cold on the news. She was jealous of him maybe. But trying to cash in on a good mans memory...just sick. It's a good thing you told us. I am proud that u had the courage to come forward. She is not a good person.

Hey Dolores - You should be a forensic TV specialist. That you are able to judge that she is a cold jealous person from seeing her 10 seconds on the news - that is a rare talent. So, it's not okay for the mother of Chris's kids to raise money for them, but it's okay for Eddie to collect money?

Anna Kelly I couldn't feel more sad for u Eddie. I do know this...if this were me, I'd do exactly what u are doing. Truth be told. Chris can't rest in peace if people aren't made to understand he wasn't mentally ill he was abused. Don't u dare hold back. And to those who are negatively responding to ur post: please continue to comment. It gives those of us who don't know her personally a better insight of the family she comes from and somewhat explain why and how she ended up SO FUCKED UP. Love u Tully family and I'm thinking tonight will truly be the night that Chris will finally rest in peace. What a great big brother u are...

Hey Anna - thanks for clearing up that Chris wasn't mentally ill - he was abused. Abused enough to leave his children in the hands of the woman that allegedly is abusive? Would a 'great big brother' hurt his nephews so publicly?

Tiffany Hand Rittenhouse I new Chris in grade school and he was a great, happy, go lucky person, but I knew there was something more to this because you never heard from her on the news and most importantly she looked like she didn't give a shit in the picture they showed on the news with his sons. She is a total BITCH and yes KARMA will get her!!!!!!! Eddie Tully you have helped yourself and helped us understand how this really went down. Keep doing what you have to do. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.

Hey Tiffany - You should go into business with Dolores. "Doesn't give a shit" - wow, that's so insightful for you to notice that. Also, it seems you are a Christian with your "God Bless" - I don't know that genuine Christians would call people they know nothing about a BITCH.

All these people (and far more) are passing judgement on a woman they don't know. It's a social media mob witch hunt. It's not only sad - it's frightening to watch the hate unfold.

Actions speak louder than words they say, and in this case, not only have Eddie Tully's actions but also his words have revealed his real character. At least, to anyone who is capable of thinking clearly.

This will be my last post regarding the Tully's. Eddie has shown his true colors. If he truly cared about his nephews, he would quietly work out the problems so as not to cause public humiliation to Chris Tully's boys. I admire Kelli's restraint and courage at not being drawn in to a public battle and hope she quietly continues to keep her head above the fray. The people that matter the most know the truth.

Back story:

On January 2015, Chris Tully went missing. Tully's friends and brother went into action a few days later - using social media to alert people. In a weird twist of fate, I was contacted by one of Chris's friends because I owned the domain name FINDTULLY (from trying to help find a lost dog named Tully - which did not turn out well. Tully the dog is no longer with us either).

Everything about the story of how Chris Tully went missing was confusing. For anyone who followed the story - they'll remember the many changes. He jumped out of a car at 6 in the morning. Then days later he it was his parents car. Then it was because he had mental illness. Then he was on medication. Then he wasn't on medication. Then Eddie (and many others) accused the police of not doing enough.

In private emails I was sent from his friend/former students - I was told there were family problems. He was known to party but didn't have a drinking/drug problem - and then other people contradicted that and said he didn't drink and wasn't having problems.

Publicly, it was listed that he lived in Warrington, Jamison, and Philadelpha.

Eddie Tully set up a GoFUNDme for his brother stating the money would go to help finding him and be rewarded to the person/people who helped to find him. Totally understandable.

Then a GoFundMe popped up for Kelli Tully - Chris's wife and the mother of his three children. The GoFUndME was set up by a friend of Kelli's and stated that none of the money from Eddie's GOFUNDme was going to be shared with the children.

It was odd that weeks after Chris Tully's body was found, Eddie still had a GoFundMe - the initial "goal" was 10,000. When it exceeded 10,000, he upped the goal to 15,000. And when it exceeded 15,000 Eddie upped it to 25,000. Eddie states on the gofundmewebsite: "The family will also put funds toward the cost funeral services and provide assistance to other family in need of assistance in dealing with a tragity such as this."  (that was taken directly from the website)

On 4/12/15 - Eddie contacted me and stated he has made donations (in February) to various organizations that helped look for Chris.